Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Pour your heart out - Friends

Today I am linking up again with Shell from Things I Can't Say to pour my heart out. If you have something you want to pour your heart out about, write a post and head to Shell's to link up!

I do not make friends easily. My husband will probably disagree with that statement. But really, I don't. I have friends all over the country due to several moves I have made over the years, but really only two or three that I keep in touch with on a regular basis.

Whenever I move, I find myself faced with the same dilemma. I am lonely, but I hate stepping out of my comfort zone to reach out to others and make new friends. Honestly, I crave having friends. In the last town that we lived in, I had a friend that I could call whenever I was bored or lonely, and she would just say, "Come on over." It didn't matter if her house was dirty or her kids were having a day. I miss her. She made it easy for me to be friends with her.

In the current town where we live, I have made three friends. We have lived there for almost two years. I know more people than that, but only three, maybe four, that I really consider to be friends. I have a hard time opening up and letting other people in. I am self conscious that the other person isn't going to like me, or isn't going to like me as much as I like them.

Isn't that lame?

But guess what I have found. I have found a community in the blogosphere. I have found Shell, and Chelle, and Holly, and Kmama, and Jody, and Cheryl, and Katherine Anne, and Elizabeth, and Melissa, and a whole host of others. I have found these amazing women who read what I have to say and respond back to me about it. They boost my confidence and give me virtual hugs everyday.

Thank you for being my friends. Even those of you who don't leave me comments, thank you for being my friends. Thank you for reading what I write. Thank you for writing your own posts that inspire me to be a better wife, mother, and overall human being.

That is what friendship is about. Being there for each other and helping each other to be better. Even if we haven't met face to face, I consider you all friends. And you can come on over anytime you want. Just scootch the piles of laundry and dirty dishes aside. Cop a squat and let's chat.

I heart you bloggies!



Erin said...

That's how I feel to. Blogging buddies have become my friends lately. We've been here three years and a friend I went to highschool with lives less than two miles away. It's been six months since I've seen her. My sons disabilities make her uncomfortable so she quit coming around. Oh well her loss not mine I guess.

Mommy Moment said...

AWW Erin,

Thank-you for also being a wonderful bloggy friend!
I appreciate you and love your posts!
Here is a big hug (<3) from me to you!


The Boob Nazi said...

I know how you feel! Sometimes, the friendships I've made on here can fill the void in my real life on a bad day.

We live in a Zoo! said...

No that is so NOT lame. I have those same insecurities, I thought I was the only one...... Thank goodness for the blogosphere, for letting so many of us know we aren't alone. ;D

Oka said...

I have lived her 5 years and have 3 friends in this area. One has gone above and beyond what any other friend has ever done for me. I wish I had more, but I won't trade the treasures I have.

I have made a few bonds online that I would never trade either. I can't wait for the day I get to meet these wonderful women. One day, when the time is right, I know it will happen.

Anonymous said...

I am the same way. It's so hard to move to a different place and meet people. I have the same fears. It's great when you can find that one who says to come on over and who likes you for you. I agree with the blogging friends. Everyone has been so great! I'm grateful to have met you through blogging. Thanks for your support!

Jenny said...

I totally agree with you. I do not have many friends where I live. I have one close friend but like you I love all my bloggy friends!

Shell said...

Aw, I love you, too! I have made exactly zero friends here. But, blogging makes it so much less painful. I feel like I know you and that you know me and that I could spill anything to you and it would be okay.

Thanks for linking up.

blueviolet said...

Like you, I moved and moved and moved and I finally got tired of making great friends only to leave them and have to start over. I finally just stopped trying.

Bloggy friends really are wonderful, aren't they? In my case, my bloggy friends have turned into real life friends and I continue to make more all the time.

Brittney said...

awww I completely agree! Ever since i got married and had my son my "friends" dont really want to just hang out anymore, i felt like i had no one to talk to, until I started blogging Ive made some awesome connections and friendships

Vodka Logic said...

What a great post. I could have written it too. I have lived in my town 20+ years and I have 0 friends here.. lots of aquaintances though. I do have friends nearby so I am not a complete hermit.

The best friend I have I met online and she lives half way across the country. I also have a ton of virtual friends..

Thanks for saying what so many feel. xx
New follower

The Princess of Sarcasm said...

Shell tweeted your post so I had to come and read it. I agree! Some of my blog friends have become just as close as my real friends. I wish I could go to dinner with them! (So they could pick up the check...)

Kmama said...

Aww, thank you!!

I could have written your post. Except I've lived in my house for 6 years and have yet to make "real" friends in our town. Pathetic, eh? I have friends...but they all live at least an hour away. I spend most of my time with my coworkers, and yet, we don't do anything outside work.

I'm so right there with you. I think that's why I love blogging so much. I connect with people. I have a "flair button" on my facebook page that says "my friends live inside my computer". It's so true!

Aphrodite's Mortal Friend (ME) said...

WOW ... we sound very similar ... hope we can become bloggy friends too- so much so that I am now going to follow you my dear! Stop by my place when you can.

Messy Mommy said...

So know what you mean! We just moved and I miss my friends. :( Trying to make new ones but it's just hard.

Angelia said...

I am the same way. I have one or two close friends. I am not an easy person to get along with and I am kind of socially akward.

Anonymous said...

So many days I am so very grateful for my blog friends. I do have a few great friends here, but I've never felt like I completely fit in. I'm very shy and have a terrible time speaking to people. I even hate making phone calls.

There are so many great, wonderful women I've met through blogging. I'm really lucky to know all of them.

Rachel said...

Holy cow, are we the same person? I am EXACTLY like this -- I get so frustrated by myself but I never change. sigh

And, yes, it's one of the reasons I enjoy blogging -- I can pretend to be all bubbly, silly, and outgoing when I'm really not.

(Following In My Shoes)

Chelle said...

Honey? I heart you SO much. I felt like I could have written this--I love my blogging friends. I have a couple of friends that I can go to for anything--but of course they live in other states.

I'm here for you ALWAYS. I need to give you my # so you can call me anytime!


Cheryl said...

This post seriously made me sniffle. NOT lame at all. I find myself in a similar situation - two years in this town and only one friend. Don't get me wrong, I'm thankful for the one friend I have, but I would be so incredibly lonely without the bloggy and Twitter spheres. It's amazing how much more welcoming people can be online and how much less self-conscious I am. I'm thankful to have found YOU and to be in this community with you. {hugs}